About two months ago I was labeled misogynistic for a
comment I made that did indeed have gender bias. I was taken aback at this, given that the comment was satirical and didn't in any way reflect my actual belief structures. I intended the comment to be framed in a way that made this obvious, so I was concerned and hurt that someone would react strongly to what I had written. Since this incident I've been throwing the issue of 'feminism' around in my head, and I'm not sure I am any the wiser now than when I began.
Some background. I personally find the term 'feminism' strange and anachronistic. I understand and appreciate that there was a feminist movement, that this movement was necessary and as a whole was successful. I put feminism in the same basket as racism, something that was an issue but has generally been solved in civilised society. I am not so naive to believe that sexism and racism don't occur, it's just that in my experience it generally happens on an individual basis and is no longer institutionalised
1. A common position where sexism or racism is considered an incorrect choice is what I call a 'solved' problem, as opposed to the eradication of these traits from society.
Given this stance I am generally disapproving of events that are aimed specifically at women. I find events that talk about "women in business" to be a backward step. The only "mens group" I've actually seen lately has been aimed at mens health, and I am completely in favour of gender bias when it comes to physical issues. I know of many women only that have nothing to do with physical characteristics, and to me this screams "GENDER BIAS!" louder than any off-handed humorous comment. I know I'm lumbering around this point, so I'll summarise it as this: I don't see any difference between the genders that can't be represented as a physical characteristic.
I begin to have issues with this philosophy when I examine the raw numbers. A recent list of the top 30 people in open source (as determined by hits in Google) had zero females, which is an obvious gender bias. In fact when I look around there are some very obvious examples of gender bias in various populations, with leanings towards both genders. I've been struggling to determine if this is due to some lingering elements of sexual discrimination, or if there is another cause that we don't understand.
Is the world still sexist, and I just don't see it?
Enter
Skud/Kirrily, who recently did a
presentation at OSCON, which you should watch, on Women in Open Source (that wasn't the title, but that is essentially what the talk was about). As part of this talk her first point on how to foster inclusiveness was "Don't stare", and it was implied that this was aimed directly at men metaphorically staring at women. The caused an interesting discussion between
saffireblue and I, which ended with me trying to explain the levels of sexism one does see in the tech community that are somewhat heightened compared to everyday society. Lo and behold the
thread about this very presentation comes to my rescue and provides a perfect example of what I was talking about
2,3.
I have seen instances of what I would readily call sexist behaviour in the tech community, and I have female friends who assure me it happens all the time. While I don't really understand the cause of it (autism/asbergers as an explaination will only get you so far), I'm willing to acknowledge it is there. I've pulled colleagues up on their gender bias many times, and when I drilled down into why they claimed it was a cultural thing, and this somehow made it okay.
All of this leaves me just as confused as when I started thinking about this many months ago. Is our society still heavily geared against women? Why does this appear to be so much worse within the various tech communities?
I guess the real question for me is: Was the comment I made really that offensive? And if so, to who? Why? If I could answer that, then the rest would hopefully fall into line.
I don't really have any answers yet.
1 - After having written this entry I realised that the gay marriage issue is in fact one of gender bias, so I'm not strictly speaking correct.
2 - The whole "booth babe/sex sells" phenomenon trips me out, mostly because I find it jarring when sex is used to sell something that has nothing to do with sex whatsoever. Situations such as
this weird me out. In short: I have no problem with a scantily clad person using their body as a selling point in a strip club, but that same person trying to sell a product or service is pointless and ultimately insulting.
3- Edit: After this article was written this thread reached a
relatively happy ending.